I think if you bother to look for some of the conversations on the topic you’ll find the community is quite divided on the term, in point of fact. There’s nothing to stop any given individual being offended by literally anything; personally, I choose to respect someone if they ask me to refer to them in a particular way (or not), but that doesn’t mean that person speaks for their entire community and it doesn’t give them alone the sole right to blanket ban a word or concept.