Like I enjoy games, but I'd rather spend time with kid and spouse than play them. Like I almost feel guilty taking time for myself to actually play them.
The spouse isn't so much an issue to gaming, as separate work schedules gave ample time to just game. Kids on the other hand, and a special needs one for me, as the at-home parent take up almost every waking second of my day, from 7am to 8pm - 9pm if you count cleaning up the days activities.
My backlog is similar to yours - with the same "gotta get them in before Starfield comes out". And I know it's not gonna happen.
It was a much simpler time when you only had one console - and like 2 games + whatever you rented for the week.