Or you just lay in bed at night and just try to properly edit the score notation to a song you really like, but it’s kinda niche, still all your friends know it, and then brag about it when you meet up “yo, check out my ringtone 😏” 😂.
Hey, shit happened to me as well… deadbeat obese mom…
Buuut, I wanted him to have his mom by his side… no matter how offputting and lazy she is… so, we make it work (kinda… not really… I do it for the kid, OK 😭?!).
Of course, I do it every time and at every occasion I get 😊. I love him to death 😊.
That doesn’t mean I’m not strict. He knows the rulebook, we draw and make shapes and color before TV or whatnot… not that his mom taught him any of that 🤬. She just switches on the TV and call it a day.
Anyway, he still loves having her arround… for moral support or whatever… and he sees other kids do fun stuff with mom and dad, and he wants that as well… and he has only dad in that scenario, but mom is still around… mostly… with a cigarette in her mouth and on her phone doomscrolling 😒… but yeah, she is present.
I am trying not to kill myself solwly by focusing on the kid, what he wants to do and finds interesting, so that keeps my mind off current events… it works… for the time being…
I have been thinking about it, trust me. The situation got even more complex a few days ago (I could go into detail, but it really is a long story and I would like to tell the full story with all the details, but I just don’t have the time now). Basically, I’m now left with the option of, one, stay with her and probably suffer till he’s of age to decide which parrent he wants to be with (about 6 more years), or, two, I leave her now, roll the dice for custody and thow away a lot of money for lawyers (which I don’t have) and she probably kills herself at the end (when she looses the custody battle)… the situaton is very complex, I know that this might sound like I’m overreacting, but I’m not. The full story is far far more gruesome.
And I’m also thinking about his reaction to her being either gone from his life or not very present… an oportunity presented itself a few days ago, and I’ll monitor his reactions… still, we’ll see… I know I’ll hate myself if rip her away from his life, but I’ll have to access her influence on him and does the good outweigh the bad in her… we’ll see…
I hope I am… I really do… I think I’m doing OK, but I always consult other people and elderly people that have raised at least a few kids, and then kinda make my own mash of all of the info, take into account my son’s personality and come up with a “formula”… it is a lot of work though, parrenting didn’t really come naturally to me, I really had no idea how to approach a baby from a psychological development perspective. Diapers, eating, cuddling, cramps, that stuff’s easy. Starting to teach him things, that was the hard part for me… quite frankly, I was lost… she was freaking nowhere to be found regarding this, so I had no help from her… so I just started watching people in the park with babies, while we were having a stroll, do what they are doing with their kids. That was my starting point, and it was hard, but it got easier as I got more into it 😊.
Thay may be true, but I can’t in good conscience deny him the right to be with his mother every day… at least not for the time being… things are unfolding as we speak and I’ll have to wait and see the epilogue of these new events to draw a concrete conclusion.
But I have seen a female wolf raise a fox IRL (I have a cottage in a small village in the mountains). They are prey to each other (not really, but if there is nothing else to eat, wolves will hunt and kill a fox as well), but I saw the mother with the fox and the rest of her siblings, she made no distinction raising her biological children and the fox. I gave them food sometimes and I saw her raise them in real time. I’m still amazed by that gesture… and we think of them as animals while us that kill for no reason at all are “civilized”… at least they kill for food…
If everyone gets along, I don’t see a problem. Trouble is, people usually don’t get along all that well. That is why it is advisible to leave the couple to form their own household. All sorts of problems arise from quarels and misunderstandings, there will just be bad blood all around.
I like quality… buuuut I also like to pay the cheapest price possible for it 😁. I usually buy second hand AV equipment, but only the high quality sfuff. Same goes for everything else 😁. I usually wait for discounts on AliExpress 😁. I know, I know, I’m cheap 😂.
I like to think of myself as “economic”. I only pay for stuff full price when there is no other way (emergency, whatever). In any other scenario, I wait 🤷 😁. As I said, I’m a patient man 😁. Uni taught me a lot of things, and patience was by far THE MOST important lesson IMO.
Almost 0. I walk to work and back. I live about 5km away from where I work, that’s like a 30 minute walk (I used to ride my bike, but I need to fix it 😁). I rarely drive my car, weekends only or when I need to take the kid somewhere.
I do agree. I masturbate mostly the past few years as well (pushing late 30’s, I have to be honest).
But… when it comes to real world encounters, hell, I’m all in. Bullshitters everywhere when it comes to my kink, but when that true one comes along… it’s worth the wait 🤤.
Yeah, the shipping time is terrible, no doubt there… and things don’t always arrive, but hey, at least they refund, so… no harm no foul I guess. I don’t order stuff I need right away from AliExpress though, I buy them locally if I can find them. But, when it’s not something I need right away, I just order it from there. The prices are cheap, especially on sales. Got a 2 x 75MHz hand held oscilloscope for about $55 on sale. That’s cheap 😊. And it’s quite good and precise for the price, a lot better than I expected. Comes with a nice transport bag as well 😁.
If people weren’t willing to pay money for porn, there would be a lot less of it and it would be way less accessible.
Even if that was true, so what. There’s already tons of it available from decades of production. You can’t possibly watch all of it.
You just wanna pay for porn, plain and simple… like I wanna eat burger from time to time. Now, if someone told me that there is free food (not a free burger, just free food) somewhere where they also serve burgers, I would eat the free food 9 out of 10 times, while you would pay for the burger 10 out of 10 times… if it’s on sale, maybe like 7 or 8 out of 10 if it wasn’t on sale.
I do have specific kinks that I enjoy, but there really is A LOT of free or pirated content out there. I really really don’t see a point paying for it. Even if there is no pirated content, there really is a lot that is completely free… like I probably wouldn’t be able to watch all of it in a year if I watched porn non-stop, 24/7.
Most people posting content on PH are doing it to advertise their OF profiles and if everyone who visited PH had an adblocker on, there would be no way for them to pay the massive hosting costs that come with being a streaming video provider of that size.
Yet on the other hand, everyone here recommends using ad blockers when YT is in the picture… how is PH any different 🤨.
In the end, they decided to go into this business, that comes with the teritory (ad blockers and all that)… and apprently, they’re not doing that bad, I mean, you can clearly see that the site is progressing.
By and large, porn exists because people will pay money for it, and your ability to access massive quantities of it is 100% funded by people who “pay” via ad impressions.
Paying with watching ads is not the same thing as plain out right paying for something. Besides, how much money will they get out of me watching ads 🤔? $2 or $3 on a yearly basis, and that is only if I watch A LOT of porn (ads are cheap nowadays). That is not what keeps the industry going, it’s the hope of being paid for someone seeing your content that keeps it alive. They might not get paid ever, or not enough (dead end content creaters, it is quite common nowadays, you see abandoned PH profiles or OF links), so they quit… or they didn’t advertise their content enough or in the right places… whatever the cause, it’s the notion of easy money that keeps the industry going, not being actually paid for porn. You know how many freebies porn scene newbies give out to try and get subscribers to their OF or MV pages? It is A LOT of content… and it’s all free 🤷.
The more niche you get the harder it is to find new content for free (pirated or not). That’s why people pay for it, they like the content and there’s no other way to obtain it (and they want to support the creation of it obviously).
There are sites where you can get that content for a fraction of the price of all of the subscriptions you already have on OF or wherever (paid sharing)… if you really are that hungry for that niche material or a few particular OF content creators. Sure, you don’t get up to date updates on the content, but at least it’s a lot less than what you’d usually pay for all of that content.
And I wouldn’t even pay for that either. It’s not worth it IMO. In the end, it’s just porn.
No, I meant as in the owners of the sites (forums usually) have a request threads and you just give them the OF (or whatever site it may be) link and they usually fulfill the requests within a day or two. Of course, you subscribe to their premium section, for something like $10, $15 a year and you get access to the premium section where the owners share the content (also per request usually).
Just offering a cheaper alternative, if you really like certain content creators.
In that case, OF and sites like that do more damage than good. Instead of having a healthy real world relationship with someone, you get stuck in a dream world.
Didn’t know about the poisoning part, that is a nice bit of chilling info about how far governments will go to enforce something they think it’s right… no different than terrorists I guess…
Call me an old fashioned pirate, but for me, it’s more about the trip than it is about the destination.
I’ve been encountered with this fact about myself many times… I like this girl from somexxx.com website and I gotta take a look at what she’s got published. Low and behold, all sorts of content! OK, gotta pick and find them one by one, gotta be picky about it, 1080p rips only, no 720p bullshit… aaaand after days of searching and downloading… I GOT IT ALL 🤤! And then I don’t even watch it 😒. AND THAT PISSES ME OFF ABOUT ME 😤!
To be honest, I completely agree. I have downloaded some pirated OF content and it’s boring AF. On the other hand, as you said, there are some content creators on PH, I have them bookmarked… and it’s all free!
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