I am sorry that you aren’t comfortable with hardcore Prides. There are family friendly ones if you want to go but these are spawned by a history of protests. They remain protests. The community of Prides remain as a core of organization and links of communication that can be mobilized if shit goes really south. Nobody is forcing people to go to them.
Also I will save people some time, using a video of someone who straight up says they have never BEEN to one? Really? If this person hasn’t even attended one why are they speaking out about them? They do not actually know about them. If you have fallen for this respectability politic what I say is still relevant.
You may be gay but that doesn’t make you tolerant of the community. You don’t want to be a part of the wider community or the cutting edge of the cultue that’s fine. But there are a lot of people particularly gay and lesbian people who once they “got theirs” peaced out and decided that they could disappear into the mass of the hegemony with barely a whisper. Not everyone wants to do that. Not every one can. Trans advocacy was key to making same sex marriages legal, we have been there since the beginning facing the same persecution… and some people remember and are helping to pay that back.
You want to play house and sneer at the queers great. You became what the people who fought for you fought against. Bigoted people will look to you and use your bigotry to excuse their own. That you echo their fucking talking points like a parrot who takes treats from their hands tells me you enjoy being kept. That you are as incurious about the community as the person in this video and you are using them to soothe your own bigotry just like others will use you. You don’t have to like the community but you don’t have to fuel some bigots fucking ego for them either. Sometimes it’s tactful to keep your opinions to yourself.