If you tell me what general self hosted community you’re not subscribed to, I’ll confine my posts to there so that they don’t bother you.
EDIT: Someone was kind enough to explain that sometimes no matter how pure your intentions, it’s how things are perceived that matters.
Ultimately I wanted to avoid confrontation and in doing so, it was easy to read my comment as being snarky or confrontational and violence begets violence.
I honestly just wanted to post updates in a community whereby they may help people by keeping them informed. Alas, things escalated and one wrong step and all subsequent steps will be wrong too. Hence me trying to explain and everyone feeling I was being unreasonable.
I think someone even said they were blocking me in what in my head amounted to me saying hey, take the playground and keep my ball and I’ll go and play somewhere else.
I had a long weekend and just wanted to chill and I think people interpreted that as me being dismissive.
I wholeheartedly believe that the beauty of Lemmy is that there are different flavours like desktop environments that do things differently. I didn’t feel it was appropriate for me to try and say this or any community I didn’t create should do things my way and so was happy to hop around until I found a good fit. In hindsight, I could’ve and should’ve explained that.
Apologies for bringing the community into disrepute.