I don’t think most NuTrek is utter crap. Some is written for me, some isn’t.
SNW and Lower Decks are some of my favorite Trek.
Continuity doesn’t matter too much to me, just how the shows make me feel. TOS threw continuity out the window within the first few episodes when they introduced time travel.
Also, if you expect someone to be the same person, fictional or not, 30 years later into their life, you haven’t lived long enough. The person who is the same human they were twenty years ago, is someone who has wasted twenty years of their life.
Times change. The new shows have brought in a lot of new fans. That’s not a bad thing. Maybe instead of getting angry that new stuff isn’t made with your tastes in mind, watch something you enjoy instead.