So I’m not sure if I can or should continue my relationship with my fiance or try to fix things. We’ve been together for two years now. When we first started dating they said that they were working on finishing their masters degree but they have not done so. They also said they’d be going back to work after they finished...
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I am beginning the process of divorce. There was no history of anything bad, just general lack of compatibility. We’ve been together 13 years, and at least the past 3-4 we’ve been shells of who we were....
I don’t think you should force friendship until you are ready to. You can co-parent perfectly well with minimal communication until you are ready to communicate more without it hurting a whole lot.
When my last long term relationship ended she wanted to be friends after. I was still really hurting and those random texts and phone calls and invitations to get coffee hurt me and reminded me of what I had lost on a regular basis. I went no contact for about half a year, when the mourning process was over and I had accepted that I was better off without her, it felt okay to be back in contact.
So I disagree with the other posters - protect your heart. Your kids will be okay. Your kids want a parent who is happy. They can’t have that if you’re forcing friendship contact with your ex that is hurting you and prolonging the grieving/healing process. Go minimal contact, take care of your heart, rediscover how to be happy as a single person, then when you’re ready you can talk to your ex more regularly, if you ever want to.
As a child of divorce, what was more important to me was that my parents were happy. Kids can tell when their parents are hurting. And my parents being friendly never felt that important. You can be friendly and nice to each other at pick up and drop off without having to text and have phone calls and get coffee outside of strictly child related interactions. Your kids won’t know if you and your ex are texting regularly. They will know if you are sad.
I had a friend that I never liked playing games with. He was extremely competitive and always had to win at everything. When I’m playing a game I’m very good at with someone less experienced, I take it easy and don’t try too hard so that everyone is having a fun time. This guy was just incapable of thinking about games like this. For him he would always do his very best to win no matter what, even if he had just won against his friend (me) like 20 times in a row. For example, our friend group really casually plays DOTA, we don’t know any competitive builds, we don’t keep up with the meta, we just do comp stomps occasionally for fun. This guy will sometimes jump in when he sees us playing on steam and we all sort of groan because we know he’s 1) going to destroy us all 20/0 with a high skill competitive build and 2) he’s going to spend the whole time telling us that we should be using our characters differently or it would be better to buy this item to get this combo. But we don’t want to play competitively. We have fun just dinking around trying silly builds.
Maybe it’s something like that? This is why I stopped playing games with him. If you’ve been playing this game ranked for years, your skill level may be so high above someone who plays unranked for a few weeks that it’s just not fun to play with you. Do you try really hard in every game? Do you tell them ways they could be playing better? Maybe you could try using a very uncompetitive build/character/car when you play with them, to lean into the messing around vibe instead of the serious competitive player vibe. Try to enjoy goofing around instead of being a high level competitive player.
Another possible explanation is that this is time for him to catch up with these friends. I play e every week with my friends, it’s a time to catch up as well as play games. When new people we don’t know join in it can be fun but it also disrupts our time when we’re asking about each other’s jobs and families and such. It’s kind of like planning to get a drink with your good friends, then someone only one of you knows joins in, and you can’t really talk about the good old days or how so and so’s kids are doing because this new person doesn’t know any of these details and you have to make small talk instead, which is kind of the opposite of catching up.
Been with this guy for 3 years now, I have been making plans in my head for when we are able to move in together, while unfortunately we were in a long distance relationship we still had a lot in common and were able to enjoy our time online together playing videogames and watching movies with the occasional visit once every 4...
You are worthy of real, earnest love. You deserve someone who wholeheartedly loves and desires you. You can find that person as soon as you end this relationship and finish mourning the end of the relationship you had. Breakups are a form of death in your life, but sometimes you have to let things go to be free for the next good thing in your life. Don’t waste your time on lukewarm partners.
When you’re sitting close to each other, literally say, “do you want to make out for a little while?” Only do this if you know what the answer will be. I like this because it’s not some super corny line, but it’s still kind of funny. Not everyone wants you to grab them and kiss them like in the movies. It’s important to get consent. This silly line has worked for me every time, because you should already know the answer. They’re usually just waiting for you to ask.
I’m 36. It worked with 5ish women before I met my wife (worked with her too) while dating in my 30s. The sillyness is in some ways the point. Don’t take it too seriously, and only ask if you know the answer. Humans give lots of social cues when they want to be intimate: eye contact, smiling, touch, scooting closer, flushed cheeks, incidental contact of the knees or hands. Read those cues correctly and it won’t really matter what words you use because you will already know they want to. And humor is attractive.
For whatever reason, probably societal conditioning, women tend to expect the man to initiate intimacy. It’s scary and nerve-wracking and a lot of pressure. But just throw this line out there. The worst thing that can happen is they say no thanks and you move on.
I’ve found that women, even and perhaps especially adult women, enjoy playfulness, fun, and jokes. The world is serious and difficult. Dating can be a huge pain in the ass. Finding a partner that makes you laugh is often one of the top things women are looking for in a partner.
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So I’m not sure if I can or should continue my relationship with my fiance or try to fix things. We’ve been together for two years now. When we first started dating they said that they were working on finishing their masters degree but they have not done so. They also said they’d be going back to work after they finished...
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