You’re missing at least one asterisk: There should be some consideration for her partner’s privacy.
I don’t think I’m the only man that has observed more than one partner behaving as if she’d rather have bad sex then gossip about it than tell me what she likes and then have good sex. Just…not react at all to questions like “what do you like? Does that feel good? What do you want to do tonight?” She’ll address the United Nations with an ordered list of her recent sexual disappointments, but she won’t say “do me like this” to her partner’s face.