I think you’re attributing waaay too much to evolution.
About half of all humans are designed to take serious risks to gain status or resources, their bodies aging quicker and doing less to repair itself. The other half gets to live a little longer and be a little healthier…
You’re describing gender roles, which are very much socially created. This is something we can change and not created by evolution.
Love often encourages us to enter toxic relationships…
It’s manipulation not love (or evolution). This feels like you’re blaming the victim.
Evolution generally wants us to live lives that are as short as possible to allow for more generations in less time.
This is clearly not true, as evidenced by all the animals that live extremely long lives.
Evolution doesn’t “want” anything. It’s a very passive process.