As the only Asian person in my elementary and middle Long Island school, I was subjected to pranks all the time. I found that the less I react to their pranks, the less they would continue the prank. It didn’t stop the prank. Just less of it.
I know those school shootings are awful and I would never wish this horror to anyone. But as someone who was constantly bullied, I have a slight hint of understanding why they would have done it. Again, I don’t think what they did was right, but I certainly understand why they would.
I was bullied enough to understand how someone would think for a moment about hurting their bullies like that… maybe even some of the rich kids who laughed. But murdering indiscriminately? It’s a whole different mentally deranged thing to consider
I was bullied from grades 3 halfway thru 12. In grade 9 it began to get physical. In grade 12 it stopped being physical after my bully, a weightlifter and football player, pulled back a basketball and threw it with all his strength at the back of my head in gym. I broke his nose.
I am not particularly proud of it. I am not bragging. Though multiple times throughout the years I wondered how no one noticed. As the years went on I saw other students look away, if they weren’t laughing at me. I then began to notice the rare teacher look once and then act like they saw nothing.
To me, what some of these kids do doesn’t seem like that much of a stretch. I think this way because of my experiences, amongst other family issues that were also happening. While I am not wholly certain, when I dig deep, it’s possible one of the key reasons nothing more happened is because after I snapped it all stopped.
The line is thinner than you realize, I think.
Funny thing is, now that I’m older, I understand that I handled everything well by the perspective of people who believe the wall of “don’t hurt others” doesn’t have a door in it. Just a ton of trauma and general mistrust for anyone who happens to be male and anyone in authority, and a very deep dislike for injustice and preventable incidents.
Yeah tho fr, i’m west indian and there was a lot of veiled racism in school. Didn’t really notice/thought it wasn’t a big deal until i went to college and realized that shit DEF wasn’t normal
I too was bullied in school and when i was about to start high school we had to change home and school . The first two years i got bullied a lot but then i got tired of it and became the bully now i bully the bullies. This may come of as edgy , cringe advice but it is what worked for me . Complaining to authorities or ignoring will never even remotly stop it trust me i did try .
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