It's a bit more complex than that (and you probably know it).
When you enter the Apple ecosystem you basically sign a contract with them : they sell you overpriced goods, but in exchange you get a consistent, coherent and well thought-out experience across the board. Their UX is excellent. Their support is good. Things work well, applications are easy to use and pretty stable and well built. And if they violate your privacy like the others, at least they don't make the open-bar sale of your data their fucking business model (wink wink Google).
Of course you there's a price to pay. Overpriced products, limited UI/UX options, no interoperability, little control over your data. And when there's that one thing that doesn't work, no luck. But your day to day life within the Apple ecosystem IS enjoyable. It's a nice golden cage with soft pillows.
I used to be a hardcore PC/Linux/Android user. Over the last few years I gradually switched to a full Apple environment : MacBook, iPhone, iPad... I just don't have time to "manage" my hardware anymore. Nor the urge to do it. I need things to work out of the box in a predictable way. I don't want a digital mental load. Just a simple UX, consistency across my devices and good apps (and no Google, fuck Google). Something I wouldn't have with an Android + PC setup. :)
The whole "special club" argument is bullshit, and I hope we grow out of it. Neither the Apple nor the Google/Microsoft environments are satisfactory. Not even speaking of Linux and FOSS. We must aim higher.