The Christian right is coming for divorce next

Before the 1960s, it was really hard to get divorced in America.

Typically, the only way to do it was to convince a judge that your spouse had committed some form of wrongdoing, like adultery, abandonment, or “cruelty” (that is, abuse). This could be difficult: “Even if you could prove you had been hit, that didn’t necessarily mean it rose to the level of cruelty that justified a divorce,” said Marcia Zug, a family law professor at the University of South Carolina.

Then came a revolution: In 1969, then-Gov. Ronald Reagan of California (who was himself divorced) signed the nation’s first no-fault divorce law, allowing people to end their marriages without proving they’d been wronged. The move was a recognition that “people were going to get out of marriages,” Zug said, and gave them a way to do that without resorting to subterfuge. Similar laws soon swept the country, and rates of domestic violence and spousal murder began to drop as people — especially women — gained more freedom to leave dangerous situations.

Today, however, a counter-revolution is brewing: Conservative commentators and lawmakers are calling for an end to no-fault divorce, arguing that it has harmed men and even destroyed the fabric of society. Oklahoma state Sen. Dusty Deevers, for example, introduced a bill in January to ban his state’s version of no-fault divorce. The Texas Republican Party added a call to end the practice to its 2022 platform (the plank is preserved in the 2024 version). Federal lawmakers like Sen. J.D. Vance (R-OH) and House Speaker Mike Johnson, as well as former Housing and Urban Development Secretary Ben Carson, have spoken out in favor of tightening divorce laws.

Bluefalcon,

Easy fix, people will stop getting married. Give the younger generation another reason to not have kids.

Carmakazi,

If the only families pumping out kids are Christian crackpots, that’s a win for them. They want to out-breed you.

Bluefalcon,

The crazy Christian families usually produce non christian kids.

morphballganon,

usually

Please cite your source for that. The religious nutters who are adults now were once kids of religious families themselves.

Bluefalcon,

Christianity in the U.S. is quickly shrinking and may no longer be the majority religion within just a few decades, research finds

cbsnews.com/…/christianity-us-shrinking-pew-resea…

Losing their religion: why US churches are on the decline

theguardian.com/…/us-churches-closing-religion-co…

In U.S., Decline of Christianity Continues at Rapid Pace

pewresearch.org/…/in-u-s-decline-of-christianity-…

Pick a study we are in a decline for a reason. The craziest ones are the most motivated but they are the few.

CharlesDarwin,
@CharlesDarwin@lemmy.world avatar

The xtian activists definitely are aware of this overall trend (even if many of them will outright lie about it and many of the flock probably still think they are some kind of supermajority even if they have been losing adherents at about 1% every year for year after year) and it’s exactly why they are agitating to fundamentally change this country to a xtian one.

They want to be able to COMPEL people to join/stay in their little book club. The only difference between xtian radicals and Islamists is where the retconning leaves off is different. Both of them worship the same god of “the” bible - Allah/Yahweh/Jehovah and both of them have the same dim view of unbelievers and women and outsiders, etc…

Bluefalcon,

Both of them worship the same god of “the” bible - Allah/Yahweh/Jehovah and both of them have the same dim view of unbelievers and women and outsiders, etc…

I agree, all religion is backwards. There’s always a group they don’t like. It just changes depending on your “God’s” region of authority.

Cracks_InTheWalls,
@Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works avatar

Man - I know most folks feel the best thing to do is get rid of religion all together - but at this stage I’d settle for and support a new, loud, and active Christian sect denouncing xtian radicals and the churches that support them as Satanic corruptions.

Believe Old Testament and its edicts mean a damn practical thing in today’s world? Satan.

Insisting on not rendering unto Caesar what is Caesar’s? Satan.

Treating your fellow humans as lesser for anything whatsoever? Satan.

Corrupting Bible verses to justify creating suffering and not rendering aid to anyone who needs it? 100% Satan.

Forcing means to reduce anyone’s capacity to exercise free will, the one key thing their creator deity granted all humans? Sounds like Satan to me.

And so on. I realize this is deeply naive. But part of the reason I like The Louvin Brother’s song Satan is Real is whenever I hear the guy’s testimony on Satan, I think about about people in the offending churches:

I grew selfish, and un-neighbourly
My friends turned against me
And finally, my home was broken apart

The Louvin Brothers themselves would likely vehemently disagree, but - does this sound like anyone you know?

/end of vaguely spiritualist rant.

Schadrach,

Personally I think it says everything that the Abrahamic version of the Theft of Fire leads to the idea that we should hate and denounce the thief rather than see him as responsible for us being raised above essentially being animals. The serpent in the Garden of Eden is analogous to Prometheus, Mātariśvan, Amirani, Pkharmat, Grandmother Spider, etc.

I also find it interesting that the Theft of Fire is a nearly universal myth (as close as anything gets) - a divine or semi-divine being (often but not always a trickster-type) taking a symbol (often a fire, in the Torah a fruit) representing knowledge against the will of those in power and giving it to man, thus leading to the ability of man to be free to create civilization.

CharlesDarwin,
@CharlesDarwin@lemmy.world avatar

Yeah, while I get the general idea of “beware of the hubris brought about by technology”, but the message from the bible way oversteers into general ignorance and so on. There is a real anti-Promethean streak within this country anyway, and I attribute a lot of that to xtians.

CharlesDarwin,
@CharlesDarwin@lemmy.world avatar

I’d be all for trying to up our game in the instruction of critical thinking and spotting logical fallacies. I think if religion were to be removed, it might just be supplanted by something just as stupid (for example: the antivax/“stop the steal”/antimask/qanon/pizzagate memeplex) instead of being supplanted by reason.

Schadrach,

Yahweh/Jehovah

I still love that both of these are renderings of the same four letter word, יהוה, or yodh-he-vav-he. Because written Hebrew has a 22 letter alphabet but doesn’t have vowels (but does include a silent letter for when you stick two distinctly separate vowel sounds together - think the two Os in cooperate).

CharlesDarwin,
@CharlesDarwin@lemmy.world avatar

Yeah, it’s interesting to see how many different ways something like Kabbalah is spelled…

blazeknave,

Longevity of supreme court rulings aren’t shrinking.

Bluefalcon,

Small group grabbed a huge piece. They didn’t do that quietly. People stopped caring, became more self centered, and we lost sight of communities. We allowed this shit and we need to start voting like it.

AbidanYre,

Quiverfull folks are a whole bundle of crazy.

TexasDrunk,

Slight non sequitur, but slightly connected (welcome to my brain). Anyone can safely ignore this long, rambling comment.

There’s a series of books called The Laundry Files by Charles Stross. It starts off as kind of an HP Lovecraft meets spy novel meets a sys admin workplace humor thing. Somewhere in there, I think it’s the 4th book, there’s one called The Apocalypse Codex that deals with a quiverful group of Christian true believers that are accidentally worshipping an otherworldly horror and using parasites to “save” folks. It even features a forced birth center. I’ve known quiverfull, prosperity gospel, literalist folks my entire life, but every time I hear about quiverfull people I still think about that novel. I can highly recommend the series if anything I wrote above sounds remotely interesting, especially if you can get the audiobooks. Here’s one of my favorite passages from that book:

“They’re believers, Mr. Howard. Pentecostalist dispensationalists—they are saved, but they are surrounded by the unsaved, and they think their master is returning imminently, and anyone who isn’t saved by the time of his arrival is doomed. So they intend to save everyone whether or not they want to be saved, one brain parasite at a time.”

Other than the extra-dimensional horror, I think the book pretty accurately describes the mindset of those people. The series metaphor for modern society is so good that he had to delay and rewrite the last book because the original plan, prior to the pandemic, was to have the final resolution be a highly contagious disease.

rambling_lunatic,

The many-angled ones live at the bottom of the Mandelbrot Set.

TexasDrunk,

Did we just become friends?

rambling_lunatic,

Yes :)

CharlesDarwin,
@CharlesDarwin@lemmy.world avatar

I’ll have to check it out. Every time I see some of the radical xtianist/magabrained set in action, I think about the way that America is portrayed in The Rapture of the Nerds.

Jiggle_Physics,

Yeah we had a big quiverfull church not far from where I used to live. They were in a cycle of being in the news every few years for how they promote their flock to get on government assistance to afford more kids. People making six figure incomes were getting a variety of benefits because they had over a dozen kids, in two cases two dozen kids. This would piss people, garner calls for legal changes to stop this abuse, bring up how they are exactly the type of people who want to scare people with “welfare queen” stories, etc.

For a couple generations, the pumping out children mandate made it grow. However, around the third generation they started seeing a steep decline in parishionership. Basically the founding members’ kids weren’t nearly as willing to stay in this cult, and by their grand children’s generation, their birthrate wasn’t enough to replace their flock. By the time their great grand kids’ generation came around (current time) they were quickly dwindling in numbers. Now every time their welfare stuff hits the news they now have interviews with people who cut their families off, and left the cult, being interviewed about how insane they are.

From what I have been able to find, this seems to be the general timeline of these “super family” sects. They burn themselves out, and as time time progresses, the burnout comes more, and more, quickly. So the long term prospects of the baby factory faiths isn’t good.

TexasDrunk,

I sure am feeling like a rambling old man today.

By the time the oldest kids become parents they’re already tired of being parents because mom and dad can’t possibly keep up with a dozen kids and sure aren’t paying nannies and babysitters.

By the time a couple generations go by, there’s no more help. They still get government assistance if they don’t get out but grandma and great-grandma still have school aged kids and aren’t helping (let’s face it, pappy ain’t doing it).

So who the fuck is taking care of these hundred and change kids? It’s only good for a surge unless you have multiple wives (again, you know the guys aren’t doing it), which is not happening at a rate that makes a difference, although that happens a little bit. So by that third generation you’ve got a fuck-ton of kids who definitely think it’s bullshit.

I grew up in a semi-related cult and saw that happen in real time. The one I grew up in wasn’t the “super family” welfare abuse type but did preach to have as many as you could handle while still being able to afford them. I personally know the people you’re talking about and they’re super literalists, young earth creationists, and dispensationalists who hand wave millennialism with “a day is as a thousand years and a thousand years is as a day”. Some of them believe that the war in heaven started the day the Jewish people went back to Israel and that the horsemen of the apocalypse are already here. Some referred to covid as either Plague or Death until they decided it was fake. They’re sure that every event is the harbinger of the rapture.

Hearing these people talk is fucking wild. I know they’re a minority, but if you go into some of the more insular rural communities you’ll meet them and they are fucking serious. They don’t understand why you and all of their kids can’t just see what’s happening.

Jiggle_Physics,

I lived an hour away from a “church” that did shit like snake handling. They did not talk about their sect to strangers and were generally very wary of anyone not in their cult. Very strange people. Sorry you had to live through that.

TexasDrunk,

I guess they talked to us because we were the “light” version of their church. I don’t really know how they’d treat a real outsider I guess. They always tried getting us to come to church stuff with them.

It was normal to me. My parents weren’t bad people and they didn’t make me raise my younger siblings. I didn’t get abused like a lot of the kids around me. I put up with some bullshit, but we all do to some extent.

I appreciate it, though.

Jiggle_Physics,

Yeah lived in Appalachia, if you drove 1 or so hours out of the city, into the mountains you could find some wild shit.

Gigasser,

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  • jordanlund,
    @jordanlund@lemmy.world avatar

    Removed, ableist slur.

    I_Fart_Glitter,

    (You can have kids without getting married)

    freebee,

    but no financial state benefits at all for said kids, probably, if it depends on those same conservatives that are anti-divorce.

    CoffeeJunkie,

    They’re saying that about every religion. I guess the Muslims are also having a bunch of kids. Idk, I think a war fought with pussy is a war in which everyone loses.

    Nomecks,

    Next up: arranged marriages!

    Bluefalcon,

    That would be crazy. The courts would have to rule that kids can be legally culpable. That would be wild shit.

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    Courts ruling children have legal responsibilities? What’s next, courts requiring children to give birth?

    Kalkaline,
    @Kalkaline@leminal.space avatar

    Then it will be premarital sex.

    Bluefalcon,

    Only the best.

    Zachariah,
    @Zachariah@lemmy.world avatar

    With no birth control or abortions, conception will become legally-binding marriage.

    Bluefalcon,

    Women tend to flee areas like that. Ask China how it worked out with the one child policy.

    dactylotheca,
    @dactylotheca@suppo.fi avatar

    “Well that’s easy to fix! We just have to prevent them from leaving without a male guardian’s permission.”

    – Conservatives, probably

    Cosmonaut_Collin,
    @Cosmonaut_Collin@lemmy.world avatar

    Looks like it’s time for Utah to share it’s Mormonism.

    Bluefalcon,

    I guessing a spike in fathers/husbands being hammered to death in their sleep. Let me do jury duty for those cases. We’ll be home by lunch.

    dactylotheca,
    @dactylotheca@suppo.fi avatar

    “Jury trial for a feeeeeemale killing a man? Don’t be ridiculous, that’s immediate capital punishment”

    While I’m being facetious, there’s probably a reason why Project 2025 is specifically pushing for more and faster capital punishment

    Bluefalcon,

    Fuck everything attached to that wish list.

    Burn_The_Right,

    It’s more than just a wish list.

    dactylotheca,
    @dactylotheca@suppo.fi avatar

    Yeah, that’s the Republican TODO list for what will happen when / if Trump wins

    pivot_root,

    Jury nullification. Prosecutors and judges hate it, but it’s not illegal!

    Schadrach,

    …and admitting that you know it exists is grounds for you not being allowed on a jury.

    But yeah, judges judge the law, juries judge the facts. so the judge can corral how the trial proceeds and explain to the jury what criteria they are supposed to be following and what evidence they are supposed to consider but the jury can decide what it wants and their decision cannot be challenged - which means if they decide that someone is guilty/not guilty for reasons wholly unrelated to what the law actually says then that’s what it is.

    It’s why I was surprised that Trump was found guilty on all counts in the NY trial - I was expecting a mistrial due to hung jury before the trial even started because I was expecting at least one hardcore supporter/opponent of Trump who was going to vote based on that regardless of the evidence making it impossible to have a unanimous agreement.

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    I was expecting a mistrial due to hung jury before the trial even started because I was expecting at least one hardcore supporter/opponent of Trump who was going to vote based on that regardless of the evidence

    Anyone that hardcore is easy to filter out. They would check the Facebook of any potential jurors before starting.

    Zachariah,
    @Zachariah@lemmy.world avatar

    I’m sure they’re counting on it being rather difficult to flee from most places in the U.S.

    AutistoMephisto, (edited )
    @AutistoMephisto@lemmy.world avatar

    And with child marriage looking to make a comeback, you can bet your ass that arranged marriage will also return.

    Turns out the full Biblical definition of marriage is again, women and girls have no say in who they marry. Just wait. First they legalize child marriage, then they legalize arranged marriage. Got a debt to pay off? Just offer the guy you owe money to your daughter. Want to move up the social ladder at work? Have your daughter marry into a higher class. Don’t worry about what she wants. Marriage isn’t about “love”, whatever that is. It’s a tool for moving up in the world. /s

    But it’s almost like they want European-style feudalism back. The CEOs and billionaires become the new nobility, and we all become serfs, and we are basically already there. But, I have a plan. I’ll join my liege lord’s army and hopefully I’ll serve honorably enough that he shall award me a fief and small parcel of land. Then y’all can move in and become my serfs!

    squidman,

    We’re bringing back the shotgun weddings, boys!

    someguy3,

    Common law marriage!

    Then people won’t even get into relationships.

    Bluefalcon,

    Shit, it won’t be common if my ass is gone.

    circuitfarmer,
    @circuitfarmer@lemmy.sdf.org avatar

    My state does not recognize it.

    rustydomino,
    @rustydomino@lemmy.world avatar

    Easy fix: marriage will become mandatory. Checkmate, libtards!

    Bluefalcon,

    Incels will be eradicated. How will the world go on?

    circuitfarmer,
    @circuitfarmer@lemmy.sdf.org avatar

    I was married, later divorced, and am now in a position where I’ve been in a committed relationship for more than 10 years, but we aren’t married.

    The benefits are clear and pushed onto us: I can’t share health care with my partner if we aren’t married. The system is rigged to make people in relationships eventually get married.

    LifeInMultipleChoice, (edited )

    What state do you live in if you don’t mind me asking. Many states have rules that would allow you to add them to their insurance if you live together for a length of time. A year for AZ is what popped up when I went to search because I’m here on a work trip.

    circuitfarmer,
    @circuitfarmer@lemmy.sdf.org avatar

    I’d rather not, but I know this is a thing, albeit not for me.

    JovialMicrobial,

    This is why my husband and I got married after 10 years together. Originally neither of us cared because we were essentially already married. But doing it officially then I could be on his insurance, and if anything happens where one of us gets incapacitated the other can make healthcare decisions. Sucks that’s how it works though.

    Bluefalcon,

    I was in the same boat as you. However, I met my wife while working overseas. We dated and lived together for two years.

    The only reason we got married was for immigration reasons. If she could have came to the US easier then we would still be “dating.”

    Once she got to the US, she asked why we divorce so much. I explained for 99% of people we get married for 3 reasons; pregnant, religion, or financial. Once one of those are resolved we split.

    It is due to the system pushing you into young marriage. To produce kids young and never own anything but work non stop.

    Remember work 50 years for the possibility to enjoy 10, maybe.

    kofe,

    There’s like 1200 legal benefits to marriage iirc. Things like being able to visit in the hospital outside of visiting hours, possessions going to your spouse after death if there’s no will, stuff like that.

    Drivebyhaiku,

    The concept of the European style family is a tool of conservative control. When you create specific boundaries on what is considered kinship you create subjects of economic categories. If you get a bunch of kickbacks for playing by the rules then there are also people who are purposefully excluded from playing to create additional economic goads. Like if you are disowned from your family you can lose generational wealth and support which is designed to keep young people in line by way of fear . Welfare and social securities weakens the economic ties of the family politic control to make you reliant on the support of the people you are related to by blood and to keep people who might be your chosen family at a distance unable to help.

    So called “family values” aren’t lovely dovey nice things. They are to make being an individual with different needs a failure state.

    Zozano,
    @Zozano@lemy.lol avatar

    Isn’t this the same argument as “if women can’t have abortions, they will stop having sex”?

    Nobody gets married under the assumption they will get divorced. Marriage is supposed to be a gesture of a life long commitment.

    On top of that, there are financial benefits to getting married.

    I highly doubt this would stop anyone from getting married.

    People should stop getting married because it’s a government contract based in religion - it’s gross and I don’t want either of those things being involved in my relationships.

    Bluefalcon,

    I fully agree marriage should be simple with little to no government or religion involvement. That’s why we see less people getting married or if they do it’s later in life.

    The only real reason to get married now is financial and health benefits. That’s it.

    Making it harder to divorce will lead to the ones waiting to rethink if it’s even worth it.

    census.gov/…/united-states-marriage-and-divorce-r…

    Buddahriffic,

    Marriage rates have already been dropping and divorce is an available option. Removing that out isn’t going to increase people’s confidence about going into marriage.

    And as the nightmare stories come out about the guys (and probably some girls, too) who change overnight once the marriage license is official (or annulment period ends or whatever becomes the “now you’re locked in as long as I don’t get caught cheating”), it’ll only go down further.

    There will also be a reaction to the women who decide to just stop being loyal once they are done with a marriage but can’t get out.

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    Better fix: make life difficult for the assholes pushing for these policies instead of shrugging your shoulders and saying “guess it’s their fault when everything goes to Hell.”

    skvlp,

    Those from the USA that grab the attention are not sane, but I assume there are sane people there. What are their take and outlook on this? What’s their outlook on the future, and are there developments in their outlook on the USA?

    0110010001100010,
    @0110010001100010@lemmy.world avatar

    I suppose I could call myself sane and I’m from the US. My outlook is pretty grim honestly. We have far-right “christians” trying to turn the US into a theocracy and install a dictator. It’s real Hand Maid’s Tail shit and it’s scary as fuck.

    I don’t think we have crossed the point of no return yet but we are damn fucking close. I also don’t know that there is going to be a way out of this without violence.

    One thing I CAN say for sure, if Trump wins in November we have crossed that line and the US is going to be fucked for a long time.

    sloppy_diffuser,

    Also semi-sane US citizen. Same feelings. Would not be surprised if there is a major civil incident within the next 20 years.

    Lower class is fucked without anything to lose.

    Middle class is getting milked dry to keep infinite growth alive.

    Wealthy R class keeps making these rules for thee not for me proposals in order to seize control.

    Wealthy D class, other than a handful of progressives, are just as corrupt with better marketing. Complacency over Israel’s actions put some light on it at least.

    These dinosaurs who are running these crimes against humanity won’t retire from office.

    R has been stupidly effective at wrapping up hate in “christian love.” I can’t even understand how people buy into this crap. Wealth and power is all they want. These social issues to keep people infighting is so blatant and obvious.

    skvlp,

    I can absolutely see growing unrest if this continues. It was a bit close for comfort during the peak of BLM, but I can absolutely understand why it happened.

    Good summary, I got about the same impression. Looking in from the outside it seems so obvious that there is a lot of corruption, consolidation of power, consolidation of wealth, but I guess it’s difficult to do anything about.

    asteriskeverything,

    We have far-right “christians” trying to turn the US into a theocracy and install a dictator. Have you seen the documentary God Forbid (hulu), shiny happy people (prime), or the much older netfflix doc, the family? I only ask because you’re basically making the same conclusions I got from watching them.

    skvlp,

    It’s scary as F to look at that madman getting closer to getting that kind of power again.I shiver to think what he’ll accomplish when he’s prepared.

    Sanctus,
    @Sanctus@lemmy.world avatar

    This will reverse all the good done by those laws. Domestic violence, spousal abuse and murder, and suicide will all raise significantly. This is a terrible call that nobody who truly supports freedom could get behind. It makes me want to procure large amounts of glass bottles and cloth for no particular purpose at all.

    skvlp,

    “Freedom for me, not for thee”?

    asteriskeverything,

    As a woman in the United States I feel like I’m constantly fighting against the political future (if not the practical reality of) the handmaid’s tale.

    Show or book, whatever medium floats your boat it is powerful and real and speaks so much of similar lived experiences… it should be consumed, digested, and change you after. That is my favorite type of media.

    But also it is a sort of coping mechanism cuz I 100% can see the show or book happening. And while this seems off topic yeah it all starts with religion dictating law based on their morals which gee… I sure see the church. But never Christ.

    So familiar.

    asteriskeverything,

    Oops realized I didn’t answer your question and I noticed lemmy doesn’t have great track record of showing edits.

    https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/b0370bf6-4980-4e0e-b176-e95542f2b172.jpeg

    So yeah I was curious cuz as an American I still don’t get it. Ca Gov Regan passed no fault divorce and we are arguing about it fucking 50 years later because maybe someone haves to give away too much money/property? I fucking hate it.

    Nikki,
    @Nikki@lemmy.world avatar

    crazy how if you outlaw getting a divorce then marital status remains the same (until someone ends up mysteriously dead in a river)

    i cant believe we have to deal with this i am so tired

    skvlp,

    Then marriage becomes a jail. How can she escape if he is an asshole? Unfaithful? Violent? But that’s maybe the point?

    Nikki,
    @Nikki@lemmy.world avatar

    definitely is the point

    skvlp,

    I can understand that you feel that way, is there any of your rights that seems safe? And from what I can gather there’s not a majority behind those changes - it’s a religious minority that one side needs in order to get a majority that is allowed to dictate this direction?

    I haven’t seen The Handmaids Tale, but I’ve heard it’s good, and I’ve put it on my watchlist.

    djsoren19,

    When Ronald fucking Reagan is too liberal for your party, I think it’s time for self-examination.

    kava,

    Republicans today are not the same as Republicans back then. Reagan did more for illegal immigrants than any president since. I’d vote for him in a heartbeat if it was him versus the two bad jokes currently campaigning.

    Jomega,

    He also ignored the AIDS epidemic on purpose, leaving thousands to die simply because he didn’t like gay people.

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    That sounds familiar…

    kava,

    Not a good thing but thousands of gays vs millions of illegals

    Jomega,

    Ten thousand premeditated murders via deliberate inaction is not balanced out by a million visas granted. The severity of the crime gives it more weight. A life extinguished does not equal a life improved somewhat.

    kava,

    I understand and ultimately it’s impossible to quantify and compare these things. I’m not trying to defend his AIDs policies. I just grew up as an illegal and I understand what it’s like living in fear.

    You see a police officer and you immediately get a flight or fight response. You need to find roundabout ways to get jobs, finance a car, or rent apartments. You never know if ICE will just show up to your house one day. Or if you pick up a family member from the airport and they ask for your papers (my old boss got deported that way. His girlfriend’s niece came to stay a week. He went to pick her up. CBP was waiting with her to get documents from whoever came to pick her up)

    You have to pay taxes but you don’t get to apply for things everyone else does. You wanna go to community College? Tough shit, you don’t qualify for instate tuition so you’re paying 3x the normal price. Even if you’ve lived there for 15 years and did your entire elementary / high school in the state. You’re American in all ways except one- documents

    Etc etc

    There are over 10 million, I think around 13 million people living just like that.

    And Trump is awful. But Biden pretended like he would do something, he promised immigration reform. Promised to halt construction of the wall. Instead he expands construction and the next day does a photoshoot at the border with CBP. Month or two ago he actually used the term “illegals”

    Which in my opinion isn’t a big deal but for a lot of people showed how far right he has shifted

    That’s why I brought up Reagan. He gave millions of illegals amnesty and essentially removed a constant anxiety and lifted up a people that were all hiding in the shadows.

    No president has done anything like that. Obama is probably second place because of DACA. I would vote for him again in a heartbeat.

    So yeah I understand Reagan did the AIDs thing not trying to diminish it although we are essentially picking between people who have all done awful things. Biden went and publicly bent the knee to Israel at the start of their invasion. Trump I don’t think I even need to elaborate on

    xenomor,

    The ethos of these people is largely about enforcing the dominion of men over women.* This divorce stance is about disempowering women. Abortion is about disempowering women. The move they are about to make against contraception, about removing agency from women. Age of consent, ditto. Given the opportunity, they would absolutely remove women’s right to vote, own property, maintain credit, and on and on. This is the culture that’s dominating the Republican Party and they face very little meaningful opposition right now.

    • To be fair, they are also guided by a profound desire to enforce the racial dominion of what they perceive as white.
    ShittyBeatlesFCPres,

    If this ever happens, I will raise a volunteer army of foxy sex addicts to ensure adultery is committed. It’ll be like this Onion article but as a free, gender-neutral service. theonion.com/government-to-defend-marriage-from-d…

    You think you don’t like no fault divorce? Then I’ll make it my fault.

    CharlesDarwin,
    @CharlesDarwin@lemmy.world avatar

    The cons have been butthurt about the 60s for as long as I can remember.

    cm0002,

    It’s the sirens song of lead

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    They want to Make America Great Again: When men were men and women were chattel.

    AceFuzzLord,

    If anything, I believe they wanna go back to long before the 60s. Back to the 1700s, in terms of owning slaves (including women), being able to shoot anyone who they disagree with, and getting away with killing anyone who isn’t white, claim they killed themselves, and have nobody question it.

    Sanctus,
    @Sanctus@lemmy.world avatar

    I’ll be advising all of my daughters to never marry if that is the case.

    Kacarott,

    Advise sons too. If marriage is going to be weaponised then it should be denormalised.

    Sanctus,
    @Sanctus@lemmy.world avatar

    Advising my nephew will have to suffice, I feel bad enough bringing those I already have to this place. I will make sure to just advise young people in general.

    njm1314,

    Sounds like a good time to get into the contract killing industry.

    kamenoko,

    “It harms men.”

    So does rat poison. You walk back no fault divorce get ready for a return of mysterious deaths of shitty men.

    mosiacmango,

    The absolute correct energy for this bullshit.

    zerog_bandit,

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  • SnipingNinja,

    I’m all for them getting their just desserts, but not at the cost of women suffering

    assassin_aragorn,

    This is how I felt about Roe being overturned several years ago. It would unleash hell on Republicans and make them incredibly unpopular, but it would not be worth the cost of women suffering.

    And unfortunately, I was right. It has proved utterly disastrous to Republicans, but a lot of women have suffered. People have had to go through pain and experiences that no one should ever have to – except perhaps the conservative SCOTUS justices, Trump, and Republican senators.

    Monument,

    TW: Suicide/Death/Domestic Violence> Wolfers and Stevenson traced suicide rates before and after divorce reform and found a statistically significant reduction of nearly 6 percent in the female suicide rate following a state’s change to unilateral divorce. There was no discernible change in male suicides. Looking longer term, they found close to a 20 percent decline in female suicides 20 years after the change to no-fault divorce. > The percentage of husbands abused by their wives increased in the 11 states with unchanged laws also, yet remained the same in no-fault divorce states. For women, the change was greatest: Women victims of spousal violence declined by 1.7 percent from 12.8 percent in the reform states in the same period that spousal violence against women increased 2.5 percentage points in the non-reform states. No-fault Divorce Laws May Have Improved Women’s Well-being

    MalReynolds,
    @MalReynolds@slrpnk.net avatar

    Seriously, U.S., get your shit together. This crap spills out all over the world thanks to cultural imperialism (Hollywood etc.), no beuno.

    qjkxbmwvz,

    I hope them publicly advocating for this backfires spectacularly.

    “First they game for gay marriage, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t gay. Then they came for the abortions, and I didn’t speak up because I didn’t need an abortion. Then they came for divorce, and…fuck, that might be a real a pain in the ass. Maybe I won’t vote for these asshats.”

    — some people, hopefully…

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    “First the came for abortions, and we made a lot of noise but got ignored. Then they came for Divorce and… fuck, maybe we should do more than just make noise.”

    Enkrod,
    @Enkrod@feddit.de avatar

    Torches! Torches and Pitchforks! Get your Pitchforks at the Pitchfork Emporium!

    For every two Pitchforks sold you get a free torch! And not those silly tikki-torches either!

    randon31415,

    Maybe instead of getting rid of divorce, just make divorce fair for both parties?

    mosiacmango,

    That’s what no-fault divorce is. All assets are split 50/50 with no emphasis or prejudice given to who caused the divorce with infidelity, violence, etc.

    Not only is it fair, its way, way easier than establishing blame and then some kind of punitive split of assets that will be fought over and appealed even more than the current system of “equal, equal.”

    The fair has already been solved. It’s what we have now.

    randon31415,

    So, if you are married for a day (after, lets say a drunken wedding in Vegas), the person you are married to gets 50% of your assets and you get 50% of theirs? I think a fairer way is either keep all assets separate or have some sort of automatic pre-nup for all marriages.

    tissek,
    @tissek@ttrpg.network avatar

    Issue in that case I rather see as why is it allowed to enter into legally binding agreements when you aren’t sober. Why there isn’t a (forced) period to review the papers.

    Marriage is a legally binding agreement. Let’s treat it as such.

    zerog_bandit,

    The law can’t protect dumbasses from themselves, unfortunately.

    mosiacmango, (edited )

    No, generally that marriage would be annulled. Its far too short for any mingling of assets, so none would be split.

    Generally any individual assets prior to a marriage stay individual. If you own a house outright and marry, your spouse doesnt immediatly get half of it. If you buy a house after you marry, then yes the house is split as its an asset that both parties put value into. It’s like an automatic pre-nup for marriages that already exists.

    Despite the ridiculous scenario you imagined above, judges and lawyers aren’t actually idiots. You dont have to make up hypotheticals to figure out how asset sharing in marriage or divorce works. The law is pretty clear, and there are millions of examples of both you can easily research instead of deciding there is something to be outraged about.

    KevonLooney,

    That guy is just repeating what he heard on the radio or from some drunk guy at a bar. He’s not putting any thoughts into it.

    Besides what you mentioned, there are pre-nups, post-nups, trusts, and other complicated ways that rich families use to protect their assets from gold-diggers. Marriage is a legal contract and it can be modified with other legal contracts.

    In a lot of cases, “trust fund kids” don’t even own their house or car. It’s all held in a trust so no one, not even them, can have it. If they divorce there’s nothing to split but some cash and whatever furniture or toys they own.

    In practice, I believe the pre or post-nup gives some consideration (money) to the spouse who isn’t rich so they won’t sue. But it’s not 50/50 because the trust fund kid legally doesn’t own much.

    mosiacmango,

    Yeah, Im not even sure if he knows what hes arguing about.

    All of these “problems” these conservatives are whinging about are already understood and settled with our current system. The default works well for the vast majority, and when it doesnt, you can change it. Easy.

    Draedron,

    No. When you make a lot of money because you can focus on work because your partner os handling all the work at home, the partner should not be financially destroyed after divorce. Your “idea” would lead to completely dependent partners who can never get divorces of their spouses

    ohlaph,

    They conservatives do love any and all kinds of oppression and slavery!

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    The thought The Handmaid’s Tale was a “How-to” guide.

    A7thStone,

    At long last we have created the Torment Nexus from the classic sci fi novel “Don’t Create the Torment Nexus”.

    asteriskeverything,

    This is what you really NEED to know about abolishing no fault divorce:

    And that will cause huge problems, especially for anyone experiencing abuse. “Any barrier to divorce is a really big challenge for survivors,” said Marium Durrani, vice president of policy at the National Domestic Violence Hotline. “What it really ends up doing is prolonging their forced entanglement with an abusive partner.”

    asteriskeverything, (edited )

    If they abolish no fault divorce it WILL cost lives

    That is the bottom fucking line. There is no argument against divorce that exists that can prevent that. Wait no there is, oh golly they will make exceptions for abuse. That sure fucking sounds familiar. Hmm like maybe it was the concession ‘pro-life’ would make for abortion.

    And look how that turned out.

    Before roe v wade was overturned they were all about protecting the abused, somewhat, with caveats. Kinda like they are talking about divorce here innit?

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    If they abolish no fault divorce it WILL cost lives

    “Probably, but those are lives of women, not people.”

    -Conservatives who support this shit

    asteriskeverything,

    Stop you’re making me cry. It’s so “funny cuz it’s sad” it went past the point of being funny.

    you’re not wrong.

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    I never said it was funny.

    AeonFelis,
    skvlp,

    Republicans only seem to be pro life until the child is born.

    AProfessional,

    Democrats need to stop using these terms. Republicans are pro human-capital. They want numerous, dumb, poor workers to control and they want to own women.

    skvlp,

    “Pro human capital” is a good term, thank you for introducing me to it. I’d say numerous, dumb, poor workers who are desperate to serve for scraps because of austerity.

    StaySquared,

    Interestingly, I’d assume that between home surveillance systems and cell phones, proving domestic violence shouldn’t be too tough nowadays.

    jjjalljs,

    I don’t think this is a safe assumption. The victim may not have free access to hardware. The police/etc may not believe them. They may be afraid of being murdered if they try to record something. Just off the top of my head.

    You can read “why does he do that?” by Lundy Bancroft for fascinating and depressing information about abuse. goodreads.com/…/224552.Why_Does_He_Do_That_Inside…

    andros_rex,

    The police/etc may not believe them.

    There’s something about 44% of cops…

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    Just like how “there will be exceptions for unviable pregnancies” no amount of direct video evidence of abuse will be enough to justify for the courts to justify a divorce. If they had people’s well being and best interests in mind this wouldn’t even be proposed.

    StaySquared,

    That would be utterly shameful of the justice system.

    5too,

    …yes?

    CileTheSane,
    @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca avatar

    Much like the current situation with abortions in certain states.

    AnxiousOtter,

    Are you new here?

    StaySquared,

    I am.

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