As someone who is currently at the start of “midlife crisis” age, I can tell you it’s not exactly like the stereotypes you see on TV. I can only speak from the male perspective on this, but it’s more about (for me anyway) coming to terms with the fact that everything new that comes out isn’t designed with you as it’s target audience anymore. One day you realize you can’t flirt with someone in their 20s anymore without feeling like a creep. You’ve slowly turned into your parents without ever trying to or even noticing that it’s happening.
In short a midlife crisis is just how how you deal with not seeming to be relevant anymore. You’ve done things a certain way for your whole life but suddenly the world has moved on to something else without telling you and now you’re not sure what you’re supposed to do anymore.
We don’t all buy sports cars and start dating strippers lol personally it’s just made me calm down a lot and choose what I say more carefully
I never said it made sense, or that I agree with it in any way. It’s just what happens. If it were possible just to will the feeling away by using pure logic then midlife crises would not exist.
Your comment is comparable to asking a depressed person if they’ve ever tried just not being depressed anymore lol
Trust me, in a life full of regrets, that’s not breaking the top 10. You have no obligation to anyone or anything to suffer yourself. There’s no Opus Dei-ing your way to a better credit score.
Take your wins where you find them, and fuck what other people think, for fucks sake, it’s your life. It’s like if you’re finding token A* brings you happiness but you’ve been taught that Token A* is bad cuz cuz and everyone you know thinks the same…you are taking someone else’s decision for your own in direct defiance of your own lives experience.
Do what you got to do to be happy, and do it unapologetically. Do it on the low or be the face that bucks the trend, who gives a shit? That’s all stuff outside your control, so not worth your attention anyways.
If dating strippers makes you happy then embrace it. Personally, for me, I run contrary to societies idea of sluttiness, I love it. To me its women embracing their sexuality, exploring their power thru sex appeal and sensualness and expressing their independence with total control of their bodily autonomy. It appeals to me because I like strong independent women. I don’t want to forever woo or charm a women or have her dependent on me. I want partners in life, not parasites. I want to be her choice; but with that they have to be free to leave whenever they want. If we decide to both forever woo each other, that’s a completely different conscious choice.
With strippers; they got a dancers body, got $, got rhythm, presumably looks good naked, and independent enough to either not care what other people think or can compartmentalize it away? Sounds fucking fantastic to me.
Like I don’t understand why people care so much about what other people think. Have you ever met people? Dude, they’re the fucking wooorst.
I feel like you guys are focusing only on specific keywords in what I wrote lol!
I used “dating a stripper” just as an example of something guys going through a mid life crisis would stereotypically do. I don’t currently know any strippers. I haven’t been to a strip club in like 15 years, as i don’t much care for them.
That’s not to say I wouldn’t date a stripper if the opportunity presented itself I suppose lol
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