How do you distinguish between romantic attraction and strong friendship? Something I struggle with and when romantic attachment is suggested to me I don’t know whether/how to say yes/no.
Question 1 - I think I understand the part where a person disagrees with the gender assigned to them at birth but when I see a transgender person, they seem to be striving to dress and look like the opposite gender.
You’re sorta conflating gender expression with gender identity here. Gender expression is the outward way one presents to society. Your gender identity is part of how you relate to those around you and society at large. A good example is with cis male drag queens. In drag, they’re presenting with a feminine gender expression, but they maintain their cis male gender identity.
What I mean by this is I rarely see a picture of a person choosing she/her but dressing and having hairstyles more associated with their assigned birth gender.
Further, with trans people, there’s an extra layer of scrutiny from our transphobic society. Trans people are pressured to appear as though they fit a binary gender expression in order to be recognized as their gender identity. (This also extends to those who fall outside the binary, they are expected to display an androgynous gender expression)
However there definitely still are gender non-conforming (GNC) trans people, just as there are GNC cis people, despite those pressures.
Does this mean that although they were born with certain reproductive organs at birth normally associated with a particular gender, they feel that some part inside them(soul, mind, etc) feels they should have been born with the opposite socially constructed gender?
This one is kind of fuzzy, I think every trans person kind of feels their own unique way about it. For example, some trans women keep their genitalia as-is and some trans men are fine with keeping their breasts and these things may not cause them as much dysphoria as it might another trans person. There is also a social aspect to it, in that if one person wants to be perceived as one gender, they may also want their “expected” genitalia, post-puberty body, etc. Note that those who chose not to medically transition are just as trans as those who do.
My second question and this is where I swear I am not aiming to offend. I will try to explain what led me to this thought - When a person chooses to take hormones that their body doesn’t make on it’s own or chooses to have surgery to rebuild sexual organs that they weren’t born with or to add/remove breasts, Is this element of trans life considered a mental illness?
What you’re describing are various steps of medical transition; to answer your question, no, medically transitioning is not a mental illness. There is mental illness in the trans experience however, and that is gender dysphoria.
Gender dysphoria is the word for the mental, psychological, emotional, and sometimes physical pain, anguish, or torment trans people may feel prior to receiving gender affirming care. Gender affirming care is considered to be the cure for gender dysphoria and may come in different forms: it can be medical transition, social transition, a good support system, therapy, or any combination of these things and more.
The only reason I ask this is I remember watching a documentary where people lived a life in which they felt, for example, that one of their arms didn’t belong to them and they pursued surgery to have a working limb removed. During the documentary, some of the people during therapy and medication were able to change their mindset to the point that they could live with the offending limb but there were some people that were traveling to other countries to have it removed (the doc was based in the US and they couldn’t find a doctor to perform the surgery). The only reason I ask is because of that, My mind goes to body parts that the person doesn’t feel belongs but that they were born with and not something socially attached to them.
A better comparison would be if you had a third arm, or if you were short one arm due to a genetic anomaly or injury. You may feel social pressures that you may not fit in or maybe you feel body dysmorphia about your body being different from other people you identify with. You likely would want to seek care to more closely align your body to one that is socially expected.
Never feel bad about asking questions! You’re making an attempt to learn and understand, and that’s way more than some people (allies included) ever do.
I also understand better regarding gender-affirming care. That seems very hard to receive currently, at least in the US. Perhaps it’s being politicized by those in power but I see more comments about not being able to receive any care than I do about successful treatment.
It’s very rough for a lot of trans people in a lot of states. I’m very lucky in that I had the privilege of being born in a state where a lot of the medical steps are covered by insurance, but a lot of trans people aren’t afforded that luxury. To make matters worse, some of these treatments are only gatekept when it comes to trans people, while cis people get access to those very same treatments.
Cis kids who may be going through puberty too early or too quickly are given puberty blockers, while trans kids who feel they’re going through the wrong puberty have those same puberty blockers withheld because they “could be dangerous.”
Cis women can be given testosterone blockers for various medical conditions such as PCOS, and may even be prescribed estradiol for postmenopausal symptoms or because they had a hysterectomy. Cis men could be given testosterone blockers like finasteride for male pattern baldness or prostate issues. Spironolactone is a high blood pressure medicine that also can acts as a testosterone blocker at high doses. I’ve even heard of cis men being prescribed testosterone if they simply have concerns about their T levels being too low.
Not to mention the various gender affirming surgeries many cis people go for such as breast augmentations, plastic surgery, hair transplants, even dangerous ones like the penile ligament surgery or BBLs.
Gender affirming care just isn’t politicized when it’s affirming a cis identity.
I’m sorry if I’m being too much, I just have a lot of thoughts on this.
What is ‘deep writing’ to you? It’s a character driven narrative focused on two characters’ relationship to each other and their survivors guilt. It doesn’t have to be ‘deep’ to be compelling. It might not be ‘the greatest story ever told in a video game’ as it’s been lauded, but it’s not bad by any means.
Just to be clear, Unrecord (the game this cyberpunk mod is based off of) is a standalone game. It’s also straight up copaganda, so I could give two fucks about the original dev. Besides that? There’s no real benefit to keeping his technique to making the game’s art style a secret, it’s a good thing that the information is freely available.
It really does have the strength to do that to so many people that play it. It’s stuck with me for years and not a week goes by that I don’t think about it.
Hi all, I have a quick and possibly very simple question. I have a keychron V6 with red switches being delivered to me tomorrow. I just want to know what switches and keycaps will fit this keyboard? This is my very first mechanical/swappable keyboard and I know nothing about it. I want to try other switches, mainly brown, blue...
As some other commenters said, find a tester and see what you like when it comes to switches.
I’m personally a big fan of linears but I’ve been warming up to tactiles though I’m a big cherry brown hater.
Atm my main keeb has SP-star tactiles and they feel pretty good compared to other tacts I’ve tried. (though i haven’t tried some all stars like the bobas or holy pandas)
My favorite linears (that aren’t in the zealios family) are probably Durock L2s though I’m very partial to Tangerines. Good starter switches are milky yellows and inky blacks as well. You can’t really go wrong with cherry reds though.
As to keycaps, You can’t really go wrong as long as you find something that’ll fit your keeb size. The keychron V6 is a full size board so look for anything that has enough caps for full size boards.
Double shot PBT is pretty sought after for caps because the legends on each key are their own layer of plastic rather than just being painted on like some OEM keycaps. Pudding caps are very nice if you’re not looking for anything too expensive or fancy. There’s a world of keycap profiles as well, you can take a look here: www.keycaps.info
OEM and cherry profile are what most people are probably familiar with. I heavily prefer SA profile as it’s a sculpted profile (meaning it has a nice dip on each key for your fingers.) Though I do enjoy DSA as well. (on DSA profile every key cap has the same shape and height)
I’d recommend you get a nice OEM profile set first though before splurging later on a different profile.
This is a little sensationalized, $40 is a lot, and it’s more than past season pass ultimate bundles, but it’s not just one skin for $40 like a lot of people want you to believe.
Is it shitty that the only way to get the skin is through the bundle? Undoubtedly, but it’s not any worse than the industry standard.
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</span><span style="color:#323232;"> Cleared all three Deep Dungeons solo.
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</span><span style="color:#323232;"> At least 1000 victories in Rival Wings.
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</span><span style="color:#323232;"> At least 5000 victories in Crystalline Conflict or The Feast.
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</span><span style="color:#323232;"> Completed every levequest achievement, which due to time-gating takes a minimum of SEVEN years.
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</span><span style="color:#323232;"> Fully cleared all treasure dungeons at least 20 times, including the Hidden Canals of Uznair, which was a notoriously impossible achievement for many years and requires about 2000 Thief's Maps on average.
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</span><span style="color:#323232;"> Obtained every single relic weapon from ARR to EW.
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</span><span style="color:#323232;"> All extreme trials and final savage raid bosses from ARR to ShB cleared as BLU.
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</span><span style="color:#323232;"> Killed at least 5000 rank S marks and at least 10000 rank A marks and obtained every Hunt mount.
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</span><span style="color:#323232;"> All Firmament/Diadem achievements including 500,000 skyward score as every DoH/L for the Pteranodon mount.
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Can confirm most of these are mind numbingly boring and mundane. I could barely get through the slog of ONE ARR and HW relic for starters. I’m also not ashamed to admit I’ve paid for bot programs to avoid doing a few of these tasks because of how tedious they can be. (Even just normally. I never went out of my way to try and complete any of these achievements.)
This is such a stupid ass post. Nobody has to put up with the shitty viewpoints pushed by the mod or from people that would use the mod. Nobody owes you civility if you reveal you hold similar views or are okay with those views being pushed. Do not tolerate intolerance.
Fuck off, the topic has been hot in politics for ages, if you’re still against trans people and fighting back against “pronouns” you’ve made your choice and know where you stand.
The topic begins and ends at “Intolerance is not tolerated”, further discussion would be a thinly veiled attempt at justifying displays of intolerance.
Gross dude, the criteria is whatever the site says it is, in this case it was a mod with bigoted intention. What nuance is there to this discussion? Do you want to discuss what level of bigotry should be accepted? Homosexuals are off limits but trans people are fair game? Is that the nuance you want to address?
further discussion would be a thinly veiled attempt at justifying displays of intolerance.
Genital preferences are valid as far as any preference for physical attributes but when you’re reducing people to purely genitals it’s gross and no respect needs to be given to the argument.
question for fellow bi/pan people
How do you distinguish between romantic attraction and strong friendship? Something I struggle with and when romantic attachment is suggested to me I don’t know whether/how to say yes/no.
Would you mind helping me understand the reality of trans life?
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