Can confirm, I used to have a partner that was conditioned to accept gaslighting by their narcissistic father. They had a terrible memory for his abuse. Like he’d say these flagrantly horrible things, and I’d try to talk to them about it later and half the time they just… wouldn’t remember it.
It was really easy to accidentally railroad them too. Like I had to learn to be hyper aware of anything I said that might unconsciously contradict what they wanted, because they would just self-edit to remove the contradiction.
It’s what ended the relationship really, because even though they didn’t always consciously remember the abuse, they did expect it, and it was impossible to have a conversation about a difficult issue without them perceiving abuse and sidestepping it. The conversation would go in circles. When I got good enough at anticipating the ways they would sidestep topics, they had another strategy - just dissociate and blank out, so I’m left standing there going, “Hello? Can you hear me?”
Gaslighting is real, and it does serious damage to people.
So I spent a good minute or two trying to figure out those words assuming it was some dialect of english, and after seeing that video it turns out they’re just the lyrics to Pumped Up Kicks mangled up a bit.
What if I told you that television shows were dangerous? It’s true. In the year 2000, four out of every five injuries occurred in a home that owned a VHS copy of Robocop III. Someone might say, “That’s compelling Robocorrelation, but that data alone does not suggest Robocausation.” Fine. But maybe your first instinct was to say, “Robocop III is a movie, not a TV show, you fucking dumbass.” If so, then congratulations, idiot, you’re a Technical Genius. You’re smart enough to spot a technicality, but too dumb to know everyone else did too and it was light years away from the point. You’re the kind of person who tells your doctor, “Um, it’s Chief Chirpa?” when he tells you that getting the Wicket doll out of your asshole will require surgery. “And, um,” you’ll add, “it’s an action figure? Maybe you should have gone to a non-stupid medical school.”
Almost everything I know about CAD is from the hbomberguy video, and every time I see a shitpost about it all I can think about is what the original could have been, and I have no good way of finding out.
I think Israeli apologists have become a little too conditioned to jump to weaponised charges of antisemitism. It’s been so easy and effective to deploy for so long that it’s a bit of an addiction, and they’re just going to keep slamming that button expecting it to keep paying out even though it’s not working any more.
We haven’t done nothing. There’s Rojava and the EZLN building whole competing systems. There’s loads of people doing mutual aid or building cooperative economic structures all over the world, and those movements are gaining a lot of traction as people are waking up to how shit things are.
You don’t usually hear about all these projects, in the same way you may not notice termites hollowing out a structure until it’s far too late to save it.
The problems with nuclear power aren’t meltdowns, but the facts that it often takes decades just to construct a new plant, it creates an enormous carbon footprint before you get it running, it has an enormously resource-intensive fuel production process, it contributes to nuclear proliferation, it creates indefinitely harmful waste, and even if we get past all of that and do expand it, that’s just going to deplete remaining fuel sources faster, of which we only have so many decades left.
It’s not a good long term solution. I agree we should keep working plants running, but we can’t do that forever, and we still need renewable alternatives - wind, hydro and solar.
And it wasn’t some nebulous group of NIMBYs that worked against nuclear power, it was the fossil fuel lobby. I don’t know why people keep jumping to cultural explanations for what is clearly a structural issue. The problem isn’t some public perception issue, but political will, and that tends to be bought by the fossil fuel lobby.
It’s absolutely true that a lot of modern-day problems with being tired come from bad sleep habits. What I’m talking about is a real phenomenon that isn’t being in front of a screen too close to bedtime. If anyone wants to know more, here’s a 3-minute video from AsapSCIENCE about what research shows.
That’s definitely a good point. I looked it up and found a few places saying it was about 38% of users using adblock on the internet in general: techjury.net/blog/ad-blocker-usage-stats/
Although apparently the most adblockers are in Indonesia with over 50%.
So that would suggest that if there is a tipping point where increasing ads backfires, we’re not actually that far away from it, and in some places it may have already happened.
Although the analysis that “if you add 10% to the price and lose 5% of customers then it’s worth it” is definitely true. This is why there’s a bottom to every market where for instance some people can’t afford even the basic necessities and become unhoused.
Stephen Segal is the off-brand Steven Seagal except instead of worse he’s just a nice humble dude with a black belt who never brags about it and is not a human trafficker.
I have an urge to buy some of them on steam before they get delisted but don’t want to give any money to wb in the process. The way that apparently devs could just leave or sell/give away the game on other platforms made me think maybe wb doesn’t get a cut of every sale. Does anyone know that for certain?
On a related note, the game Satisfactory is a sci fi factory building game set on an alien planet, and there’s a big ass spiral galaxy in the night sky. When I saw it I had to stop for a minute and think about the lore implications. Either this is millions of light years from Earth at least, or billions of years in the future.
Either way the fact I’m playing an indentured servant practically owned by a mega corporation hell bent on rapaciously expanding their factories throughout space is fucking bleak.
Now, maybe the artist just put it there because it’s pretty and spacey, but the devs are clearly massive nerds and I would 100% believe that they intended that implication.
I really do prefer my hopeful speculative fiction much more these days, this is the one that sticks out the most to me recently: It Could Happen Here | CZM Book Club: The Lost Roads by Sim Kern, as well as the game Terra Nil. There’sa really healing quality to seeing someone else’s imagination of a better world.
Satisfactory is fascinating though. At first I was wondering why it was such a beautiful game. They made a stunning alien world.
Then as I slowly decimated the landscape and covered it in brutalist industrial architecture the message became clear about how the drive towards infinite growth is so destructive. Nobody made me do it, but to advance according to the company’s incentive structure I had to. I try to compactify and grow vertical, and offshore my big structures, and that’s arguably better, but then the vistas are always marred. You can actually use geothermal energy, but in order to get there you need petroleum for plastic for computers, and the byproducts of that basically guarantee you will be fossil fuel dependent by that point, and even then geothermal can’t sustain your whole operation. It’s an incredibly well constructed ludonarrative.
Also you can’t sleep. At all. There’s a bed but you can’t use it, you just work all through every night. I’m pretty sure the company has augmented the character with cybernetics to make them the perfect worker.
Then I saw that galaxy and I was like oh… oh no. We are the universe-eating scourge civ that Fermi was theorising about. We will destroy everything in our path.
They’ve been conditioned to respond to certain key phrases with certain responses.
So the trigger goes trans women -> care -> women’s sports but you don’t get women’s sports -> care.
Or veganism -> care -> nutrition but not nutrition -> care.
Our brains are weird things, they have to develop links between ideas in both directions or else they stay one-way. It takes real work and discipline to develop critical thinking practices, and even then you have to keep working at it to minimise this kind of cognitive dissonance, and you’ll never get rid of it entirely.
Of course it helps if you’re not miseducated by authoritarian schooling practices and conservative media.
The Irish famine was ultimately caused because their English landlords demanded they send their cash crops away to make them money, and the main thing they had left was potatoes. The potatoes weren’t plan A, they were plan Z after everything else was stolen from them. It was caused by colonialism. Yes, the potatoes were too important and the monoculture was a problem, but it’s not like they didn’t know that, they just didn’t have the freedom to do it better.
The potato blight actually returned some years later but by that time they had organised militant eviction defense to prevent the destruction of their communities and far fewer people died.
So a lot of historians and the Irish themselves will object to calling it the “potato famine” because it grossly distorts the reality of what happened.
Such a great idea to make an international organisation for diplomacy where the nations that are already dominant also have complete power to stop anything they don’t like.
Surely this is a credible institution and not just a respectable veil over imperialism.
That’s right just sit there and frown at the guy vetoing instead of doing your duty to humanity and punching him in the face.
“you guys” meaning who exactly? Anarchists aren’t known for their love of imperialism.
And what, a punch is imperialism now? You really just want anyone that disagrees with you to be a nazi or something, don’t you? Or I guess you assumed I was a tankie, didn’t you? Some words are just doomed once liberals get a hold of them.
I guarantee you if someone punched that guy in his stupid fucking face mid-veto it would be front page news and it would influence public opinion, and at the very least that person could tell their grandkids, “I didn’t just sit there frowning and doing nothing while thousands were condemned to death and suffering.” It would also delegitimise the UN quite a lot, which I think would be a good thing. But it’s not going to happen because anybody there is well-paid and has a prestigious position, which is one of the ways an institution like that maintains its appearance of legitimacy.
EDIT: Oh, and anyone that doesn’t “do what I want”? You think there are two sides to whether Palestine needs support and recognition in the midst of an ongoing genocide? This isn’t a difficult moral calculation.
More like they had access to training bombs and planes, and frequently flew over enemy territory, so they put those things together and got a mad prank out of it.
Also fair, the unique combo of boombox, shorts, air jordan tee and pulled up socks is particularly uncanny. I would’ve assumed the boombox had been sitting in an evidence locker since 1982 if it wasn’t for the blue LEDs.
That’s a fair point, although I would say socialism is becoming less fringe, and it seems like the various types of libsoc are the main forms of socialism because people have seen the failures of state based solutions, even amongst demsocs/socdems.
That said, I kind of agree and the word “fringe” didn’t sit quite right. On reflection a better word would be “covert”, since ideologies that explicitly want to dominate people tend to hide what they are, since they know it’s not acceptable to state their aims up front. That’s really the idea I was getting at.
I don’t see the relevance of schadenfreude, but since you can see it, you realise you can just take screenshots, right? Like seriously, I would be fascinated to see them.
EDIT: At this point, you really should just stop replying. Replying with literally nothing is a blatant admission that you have nothing to say, which is to say that you know you were in the wrong and you don’t want to admit it.
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World Bank’s climate plan: Pricier red meat and dairy, cheaper chicken and veggies (www.politico.eu)
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Thousands of Israelis take to streets of Tel Aviv to demand cease-fire and Netanyahu's resignation (apnews.com)
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It’s absolutely true that a lot of modern-day problems with being tired come from bad sleep habits. What I’m talking about is a real phenomenon that isn’t being in front of a screen too close to bedtime. If anyone wants to know more, here’s a 3-minute video from AsapSCIENCE about what research shows.
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I have an urge to buy some of them on steam before they get delisted but don’t want to give any money to wb in the process. The way that apparently devs could just leave or sell/give away the game on other platforms made me think maybe wb doesn’t get a cut of every sale. Does anyone know that for certain?
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