I knew this guy. He always wanted to suck my Schlong or f with me. Told him i ain’t gay. He replied he neither, he just finds vaginas disgusting (Women in general, Vaginas just being the “most disgusting” part) and schlongs beautiful, hence it’s not gay at all. He just prefers guys coz they have said dingdongs.
Told him that was somehow very gay. He got really really really pissed at me for hinting he might be gay. He hates gays and find them repulsive. It was at this point that i realized, he verbally held me hostage. How to reply to that? I didn’t know.
EDIT: That wasn’t a joke or satire, he was dead-serious about it. That level of cognitive dissonance is hard to find, even in religious people :-)
The question that now comes to my mind: What is gay exactly? Is this specifically just when you like dicks? Or are also looks coming into okay here?
Are you also gay if you like people who look like women but have a penis? If yes, are you then straight if you prefer people that look like men but have a vagina?
Afaik there are also people that have both. If you fall in love with them without having ever seen their genitals, are you then still automatically gay?
Man, the more society progresses in open and honest conversations about sexuality, the more I’m sure that “spectrum” doesn’t even begin to do justice to the vast, bizarre complexity of human sexuality.
It’s more like…that crazy 3 tier chess they play in Star Trek.
Yeah, I even felt weird using the word spectrum. I’m visualizing a 3-dimensional gradient where each individual point in space reflects a unique sexuality. It’s about as unique to you as your fingerprint. It’s insane to me that we had such black and white categories for so much of our history.
There are actually different models of talking about sexuallity. The one most common that you know where there’s stuff like gay, lesbian, bi… But when you have trans folks that doesn’t nessisarily give much credence to genital preferences. It’s more a reference to the cultural gender expectations. A cis man and a pre-medical trans man is still gay where a cis man and a trans woman in the same situation is straight… But when you are non-binary this model doesn’t serve because if I am culturally neither male or female is me liking a specific presentation gay or straight? If you’re defaulting to what my body type is then neither is correct. I am not pan or bi because I don’t like both and I am not straight or gay because those things frame relationships between physical sexes not fitting neatly into the changing cultural landscape of gender.
The other less used model just describes what someone finds sexy. A gynophile is attracted to feminine presentation, androphiles like the masculine, Skoliophiles are into non-binary people and ambiphiles like all.
It is a little 4D chess but it’s easier to pick up when you don’t have to account for old rules.
It’s an n-dimensional spectra, but I’m not really sure what n is in this case. It’s at least two, with one dimension being masculine/feminine and the other being penis/vagina, but there are way more things to sexual preference than that. We need one for dominant/submissive, multiple dimensions for hair color, maybe age, and all kinds of other factors. Every person will have a range of preference for all of these, and they aren’t just the far ends.
Spectrum is fine and all, but gay is gay. If gay would mean many things, the word would be useless. It already became useless for its original meaning, let’s not kill it again :-)
Love is multiple things and is still meaningful for us.
Theoretically I can see somebody not being attracted to guys, as in masculine people, or just males, but still being turned on by penises as we see in OP’s example. That person might not call themselves gay since they wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with any guys, but might be interested in a hookup with a trans woman who still had their dick.
Maybe their is some nuance in what being gay is or there is room for another descriptor for this phenomenon.
Edit: reading below, this person might be hetero-romantic and homo-sexual.
Not judging or anything, i never cared who wanted to make love to whatever.
But he really wanted dudes. Women were “disgusting”. whatever floats ones boat, but this is simply the definition of gay, if you like the term or not. It’s just a word describing a preference. A dude just liking cocks on a dude’s body and person and gender, then it’s plain gay.
Guess in his case (my generation, we both being genx) it was just the typical upbringing that said gay=bad. Guess the shit stucks deeply, hence his cognitive dissonance and extreme adversity to gayness.
If gay would mean many things, the word would be useless.
Yeah, totally. I mean, that’s definitely why there aren’t any words at all in the entire English language that have more than one strictly defined meaning, and that meaning has never, ever changed.
Well in his case it wasn’t just the dick itself. Women were “disgusting”. So the dick needed to be attached to a manly man.
What exactly is gay? To me it’s when a manly man likes manly men. If you’d fall in love with a woman and THEN see her male genitals, it wouldn’t be gay. She just was an ass to not tell you earlier 😁 If you’d see both genitals or none, it wouldn’t be either. And yes, there always have been those with both or none.
Sucking a cock doesn’t make you gay. Only wanting to suck dicks and finding women unattractive and NBs unappealing? Yeah, you might be pretty gay. But if you just want to fuck with the occasional dick sometimes? You’re not gay. There are a million different variations that don’t make you gay. Some of them involve penises, sure.
Yeah man. If you only find other handlebars aesthetically pleasing and maybe just want to briefly touch them that’s definitely not gay. Is it gay to touch your own suspensorium? No difference and very straight.
To which the answer is that there is no gay, no straight, nothing makes any fucking sense, everyone is bisexual (or asexual) but also there is no bisexuality (or asexuality)
I honestly have no idea what it is, if it’s society, if it’s internal, no idea, but I’m absolutely 100% not aroused by men at all, and just knowing a m2f transgender person once had the biological parts of a man is enough to kill any arousal that could have been.
Not that it’s a common question, but my “answer” to “could I ever date/sleep with a transgender person” is “I’m not mature enough to be comfortable with that.” I blame myself in some way, but I am “repulsed” by the idea (not repulsed by the person, just the thought of intercourse)
I hope it doesn’t need to be said, but just to be sure: I want everyone to be able to live their best life and to be happy and accepted, I have no hate for transgender people or anyone (except billlionares, private insurance companies and maybe some landlords)
Dude. Who doesn’t like tatas? I understand not liking genitals – there’s nothing particularly visually attractive about most V’s or P’s, when you’re not aroused. But boobs? Just about everyone can agree that boobs are attractive.
This begs the question (possibly a stupid question on my part since I’m not very knowledgeable on the topic): if he had a genital preference for wangs, and a sexual preference for trans women, would he in fact be considered straight, or is there another classification for this?
Dude, i honestly don’t know if a guy liking an mtf-trans with a dong is considered gay. I would prefer said mtf-trans-with-dong over a manly-man-with-vayajay. I consider myself straight. If i HAD to choose which of those only 2 alternatives would be more attractive. So I’d guess it’s more the person/gender than the primary genital. But what do i know :-)
here’s the thing, there is a perceived idea that being gay means that you fit into “gay culture” and all the aesthetic ideas that go along with it, which is not exactly what’s real (at least, this is my perception as a mostly straight ally).
So these guys think, I don’t like the way the sterotype of a gay person behaves in my head. I don’t belong in that group of people. Sure I want to suck a dick, but I don’t want to go see a drag show or act like a woman (not my opinion here) so I’m not gay. I just want to jerk off with my buds.
that’s why they had to come up with the definition of MSM. People basically think “gay? I’m not gay! I fucked Jim in the ass yesterday, but that doesn’t mean I’m gay.”
“My understanding was that gay people are just like everybody else–decent, hard-working people who care about their communities and have loving, committed relationships,” Weber said. “But, after this terrifying spectacle, I don’t want them teaching my kids or living in my neighborhood.”
This guy called a conservative radio show and listed names of punk bands.
“One of my main problems is… I’m a Republican in a fairly liberal area, sometimes I feel like everyone is just Against Me!,” Dobi began, talking to host Liz Gabert. “I feel like what we need to do is listen to what our Descendents told us. ’Cause in the past we Refused to live a Life Of Agony. I’m Sick Of It All. Im sick of people thinking we’re just a Minor Threat. Enough of that Fugazi. A lot of these people just got Bad Brains, that are Misfits that waive Black Flag and they’re practically Anti-Flag. I think we need to Converge and help the Youth Of Today because every time you blink, 182 kids, they go missing…”
Only vid I could find was from the guy on shitter, sorry
I’m having a tough time trying to read that, the first part is obviously 「ミスター スパーコル!」 (“misutā supākoru!”/mister sparkle) but the second part is hard to read, I think it says 「ハワー ワリーソ!」(“hawā warīso!”) but it doesn’t make any sense to me. Maybe the ハ is just missing a handakuten and it’s supposed to say “pawā”/power? But idk what the second one is supposed to be. Maybe クリーン (“kurīn”/clean)? But that’s a stretch.
It won’t bring in the same money, don’t put your weird tranny shit
Now :
This is marketable in certain demographics, but we’ve already met the diversity quota, so no thanks. Besides, we don’t want it to be too “political” and lose our dependable fanbase.
All studio execs do is “mitigate” movies to appeal to a broader audience…
An analogy would be a corporate chef who removes garlic from a tomato sauce so that people who don’t like garlic will eat it, and those that do will know something is missing but can’t complain too much because… endless salad and breadsticks, plus mom likes the “atmosphere”
Replace garlic with trans character, and endless salads and breadsticks with the MCU
I can think of one reasonable reason for it. They’d be harder to identify between the two versions. It makes some sense to not change the look that much (or the actor if that was the plan) to not confuse the audience.
I mean you credit them as 2 different roles, Switch (In-Matrix) and Switch (IRL). Happens all the time for different ages of the same characters being portrayed by younger and older actors.
The more I think about that, the less I’m sure how it would have worked. Any interpretation has knock-on effects for the sci-fi aspect of the premise. (Less of a problem for the philosophical and filmmaking side of things, where it’s often fine to say “fuck you, deal with it.”)
If Switch in the matrix is physically female but androgynous trending butch (kinda like canon), while Switch on the Nebuchadnezzar is plainly played by a dude… is that Switch being FTM? The character’s deepest internal state, behind the false system of the matrix, is a dude in a bucket. Maybe their presentation (via the body the matrix slots them into) is limited to a haircut, because who cares what your avatar looks like? It’s not you. Take your Fortnite default skin, get on with the mission, and get back to reality.
Obviously the more-likely-intended take is that Switch IRL is MTF, and gets to present however the hell she wants via the matrix. But that implies anyone could look like anyone else. If that requires some deep-seated self-image, rather than a malleable state only limit-breaking individuals like Neo can freely change, you figure Cipher would have hair. Or at least Mouse could give himself a couple inches. In one way or another. Even if it is only limited to modifications of your physical body, the idiot-proof shorthand would be a character who lost a limb during a squid attack still having it in the matrix. There is the image, the body, and the mind, and the body is overall a shite vessel for conveying the image from the mind.
Anyway, the funny version would be to cast a brother and sister for the separate parts (phrasing) and never mention it. Maybe Neo gets a double-take during the rapid-fire introduction to the crew. Not so much as an “Oh.”
It would be easier just to use an androgynous actor and dress them female in the matrix and male outside. No need for two actors, and it would be easier for the audience to remember the were the same person. Give them a little piece of styling that’s unique and consistent between both, and it wouldn’t be an issue.
Doesn’t everyone on the Neb dress kinda the same? It’s all raggedy gross makeshift cloth. And then in the matrix it’s all leather dusters over fine linen shirts and rugged pants… except for Trinity and the gun show.
Sure, but like, all you gotta do is give them a hat that they specifically had remade in real life because they liked it so much or some shit like that.
Come to think of it, it’s kind of odd they didn’t give her Apoc’s white shirt. Everyone else’s color scheme in the matrix is kinda black-on-black, varying only by matte black versus shiny black, except for Morpheus’s tucked green tie.
If the franchise had gone very differently, and explored the tech more than the philosophy, there’d be people with wholly different personalities in and out of simulation. They are literally online personas. If this had spawned a TV show instead of two-ish sequels, there’d be awakened hackers who spend all their free time in their ship’s construct, and barely function outside of it. Basically the antihero version of Cypher’s path: they recognize the necessity of defeating the machines, but long for modern comfort. They heard about people rejecting the matrix 1.0 utopia and said “I would just not let that happen to me.” Once Zion triumphs they’re gonna retire to some lotus-eater solipsism. Anyway: it’d fit a character named “Switch.” Maybe give her the only vibrant colors in the crew’s wardrobe. Or at least dazzling patterns. Turn the contrast with her all-white getup into multiple forms of contrast.
But that implies anyone could look like anyone else.
I would assume the machines hook the brains up into the matrix, generating the body based on DNA and what the brain expects, not based on a scan or something. Which would mean that in the matrix there’s no trans people because noone has a body they don’t vibe with but it also means that you can’t just wish yourself to grow a couple of centimetres or such.
There’s never been a single reported case of popcorn lung caused by vaping, and the vape manufactures have basically all chosen to switch to something other than diacetyl out of an abundance of caution. It was only ever in some of the “creamy” and popcorn type flavors anyway.
That said, don’t start vaping. It’s great as harm reduction because it’s better than cigarettes, but unless you’re using it to stop smoking cigarettes, don’t vape.
Yeah, but maybe avoid the black market weed carts. EVALI was caused by black market weed carts using vitamin E acetate (which isn’t going to be in nicotine juice because nicotine plays nicely with vegetable glycerine and propylene glycol, THC doesn’t) - the feds busted the manufacturer shortly after people started getting sick and I haven’t heard about EVALI since then, so presumably nobody else is trying it at the moment, but the lack of widespread reporting about it being from black market weed carts is frankly criminal.
And still boomers in the government went after legally obtainable nicotine vapes, instead of doing anything for the fact it was black market THC vapes.
In States where it’s illegal, it’s still illegal. In States where it’s legal, they could have cracked down on it.
And in my home state of California, they banned flavored vapes for “marketing to children” but didn’t touch flavored alcohol or anything similar.
Or avoid carts completely and get a dry herb vape. Then just add your flower, and it heats it to vaporizing temperature without combusting, no added chemicals at all.
Lots of options but I’d recommend an xmax v3 pro as a good starter one, usually under 100 Usd.
I too went dry herb for a long time, even have a Mighty+ that I really enjoyed, the thing about the pens though… Much less smell, much more stealthy, and one cart can last very long in comparison to dry herb.
In a non-legal state, pen is just safer imo
But yes, stay away from black market as much as you can
The reason those carts are bad is because of what they’re made of and what people put in them. Using cleanly made concentrates or just flower in most types of vaporization set ups is much better for you than either the carts or the combustion.
Wait actually? I was always under the impression that disposable thc vapes were fucking terrible for you. Do you have any links for me? I stopped using them because I thought they were killing me
not OP but I’m pretty sure they don’t mean disposable vapes (which should not be used by anyone ever due to their environmental impact) but rather the herb vaporizers you can use to put ground weed in and then inhale the vaporized contents.
I got one for myself and it’s just an all around swell experience.
I think I read somewhere that its the flavouring thats the main issue, at the time they were going off of guides for safe chemicals but most of those are for eating, not smoking. While they’re safe to eat (popcorn) lungs are a different system. I think it was lung macrophages that accumulated these compounds and they’re not sure how to process them so over time they just keep accumulating and cause disease. I’m not sure where the science is now I read that a few years back.
And I gotta say, I went from cigs to vapes 5 years ago and now I’m just stuck on fucken vapes. I can’t stress how important it is to just never smoke in the first place.
I keep away from nic-sticks like the plague. If i need a nicotine fix I’ll go outside and smoke a cig or my pipe. Same with dab pens for weed. They are just WAY too convenient and cause a problem. Having to actually go outside and smoke helps keep the dependency in check.
Idk if anyone will take anything useful from this but I tried smoking and loved it. Did it for years, thought it was great. Slept like crap, was stressed all the time, couldn’t be athletic. It was so awesome.
I finally quit nicotine completely 5 years ago and all that stuff I thought it helped with? Yeah that was just withdrawal. Now I’m stuck with cravings I don’t think will fade any time soon and elevated cancer risk.
Just don’t smoke, it’s not worth it. Do fun drugs that are easier to quit instead.
I started at 16, switched to vaping about 23? quit at 27. I smoked about 1-2 packs a day, and when I switched to vaping did it constantly.
I don’t think cravings this long are usual and suspect it’s a result of how intense my addiction was/was the reason my addiction was so intense. There is limited medical literature on persistent cravings but it seems to happen to some people.
Deadset I found quitting morphine trivial compared to nicotine. Just fucking fuck idiot lonely teenaged me who found a way to make some friends. I don’t blame that stupid goose barely hanging on but also fucking fuck them.
I’ve heard from many long time users that those cravings never really go away. But I wouldn’t describe it as “cravings.” I would describe it as rose colored glasses. You’re reminded of the sensation/taste/whatever when you see someone else smoke or you smell cigarettes (cigarettes still smell good to me, years after I’ve quit. But they always smelled good to me, even when I was a kid. Burning cigarettes, not ashtray. That shits gross.), so you only remember he good parts of smoking. When you go back, you kinda have to push through a period of not even enjoying it. At least I did most recently. But the most recent time I quit, I quit at like 27 and started again at like 34. I smoked 1-2/day for a while, but it always just made me feel like shit. If I started smoking constantly again, that feeling would’ve gone away. But I never pushed past it.
I can say this sounds like me. I’m not in continual withdrawal for cigarettes. I remember smoking when having a drink and those were good times. I remember smoking on road trips and it was a good time. Smoking with coffee, same. Bad things happen? Walk away to gather myself by having a smoke. Not a good time, but definitely part of coping.
I loved smoking. If it weren’t for the terrible health shit I’d recommend it to everyone.
I quit and am not looking back. But I still feel the call.
I’ve heard from many long time users that those cravings never really go away. But I wouldn’t describe it as “cravings.” I would describe it as rose colored glasses.
I never really thought I had a serious habit, but I dabbled in uppers for a few years before getting diagnosed as ADHD (and then taking Adderall for the last decade), and your words perfectly describe how I think about cocaine. I really did enjoy coke, and I had a lot of good times with my buddies while doing lines all night, but I don’t really “crave” coke. I miss the ritual of it and the rush as it hits your bloodstream, and if the right person offered me some right now, I’d absolutely rip a rail, but I know the experience simply will not be as good as it was then.
Once you know what you’re missing, you’ll always miss it, I think.
Oh-ho-ho yeah. I lived in South America for a few years. And I did absurd amounts of coke. Like…it was beyond a problem. But, the thing is, I don’t enjoy coke. I still don’t. I didn’t then. I’ve been offered coke since leaving and I have no real desire to do it. But there is still a lot of positive memories associated with it, sure. It was fun. Kinda. But I still don’t like coke. I don’t really like uppers, honestly. But I still miss the numbness and the feeling like you’re just…I dunno. Super fuckin high. And geeked and ready to do whatever.
But again, I still hate coke and have no desire to do it again lol
Molly on the other hand? Yeah, I’d still do that every few months if I had easy access to good shit.
It’s not the crawling up the wall tear your skin off craving of withdrawal. But the same feeling that makes you want an icecream at the beach, a hot coffee on a cold day, a chocolate when you’re bored.
Except I reenforced it a shitload more than any of those things. Obviously I don’t want to smoke again or I would, but it’s still a craving.
I also started at 16 and after 17 years was up to a little over a pack a day. I tried vaping and chewing but always ended up back at the same menthol cigarettes I started with. When I quit I chewed nicotine gum for 2 months and now I’m 2 months completely nicotine free. I still think about cigarettes every day and when people smoke around me it smells so fucking good. I still smoke a fair amount of pot though and that definitely helps. Driving is the hardest part as my work commute is 30 miles one way and I would chain smoke cigarettes both ways. I really hope I’m not still craving cigarettes 5 years from now.
I smoked for like a year and then I just kinda… hated it. It stopped making me feel good and just debilitated me. I only smoke when I’m trashed now ‘cuz it makes me more drunk. But never ever when sober.
I’m on and off with vaping. It also makes me feel kinda gross when I’m sober. My body must be weird.
Imagine being the person being told: yeah, so we only hired you to challenge beauty standards. Not because you’re the best at what you do, oh no no, but because you’re ugly af
To be fair, she’s definitely a breakout star of the show. I believe that before Witcher she had mostly worked in theatre, and even then was new to the industry.
I don’t buy it, she was amazing in season one. Season two it’s hard to tell because they apparently forgot everything about her characters wants, needs, and motivations.
It would be the equivalent of saying it quietly in a street with hidden microphones/cameras that record everything and send transcripts directly to a government database where AI is parsing everything.
Yet somehow manage to miss it when every right wing “lone wolf” spends literally years enumerating actionable plans for terrorism on the internet, hoarding weapons, and getting arrested for domestic violence.
“The young man was known to police.” No shit, he’s literally on parole, so the fact that he had seventeen guns means y’all need to be arresting the people who were obviously giving him guns.
Described: Why whenever I figure something out myself after posting a help thread, I’ll write a whole report on what I did before it got fixed (because often I’m just throwing shit at the wall to see what sticks, and I never know what exactly moved the needle)
Ok, so I retroactively removed the realm of France and now a bunch of Spanish people are pissed about living too close to Luxembourg and the number of great cheeses in the world has decreased by 80%!
Like I said in a previous thread that ended up on this topic. There’s a special place in hell, with Satan from Little Nicky, a few pineapples and some lobsters to hang off these asshole’s nipples…
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